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From: jeffrey E. <[email protected]> Sent: Saturday, August 27, 2016 5:41 PM To: Joscha Bach Subject: Re: Talk? I dont have the gene for shame jealously or guilt.=C2 so I have three in their place for loyalty On Sat, Aug 27,=2016 at 1:34 PM, Joscha Bach > wr=te: Dear Jeffrey, You are probably busy with other things, but I would be happy to talk to yo=. When you once mentioned that you are free of shame, I was instantly envious= Shame may not prevent people from making social mistakes, but it sure pre=ents them from looking at them and fixing them rationally. (That is probab=y the main purpose of shame: it is meant to prevent the individual from es=aping the submission to social norms; being ashamed means to be unable to =orgive yourself, so one cannot deal with the issues in a rational way.) Be=ng an aspie does not absolve me of being ashamed of my social failures, th= lack of instincts just makes it slightly harder to avoid them. I currently suspect that my occasional inability to stop may have simply be=n the downside of al that increases focus and goal-directedness.=Social situations are highly interactive, and one needs to recalibrate goa=s and behavior from moment to moment, while programming and writing benefi= from staying on track regardless of distractions. It is hard to see for someone who is ashamed of social disfunction and thus=goes into a mixture of beating- yourself-up and denial, i.e. dealing with t=e emotional fallout rather than the actual problem. I regret the practical, attentional and social mayhem I have caused. Frankl=, I am surprised that you supported me through this. Sincerely thankful, Joscha =AO please note The information conta=ned in this communication is confidential, may be attorney-client privi=eged, may constitute inside information, and is intended only for th= use of the addressee. It is the property of JEE Unauthorized use, d=sclosure or copying of this communication or any part thereof is strict=y prohibited and may be unlawful. If you have received this communic=tion in error, please notify us immediately by return e-mail or by e-ma=1 to EFTA_R1_01552974 EFTA02452507 [email protected] <mailto:[email protected]> , and destroy this communication and all copies thereof,<=r>including all attachments. copyright -all rights reserved 2 EFTA_R1_01552975 EFTA02452508